So Lucky


Hello, Chit Chatters. To you Parents, Mothers, daughters, siblings. Ask yourself this one little question. Would a 5-year-old say this? Well, I’ll answer for you. Apparently, they do. For the first time since the pandemic my daughter and my son-in-law were able to get out of town and go to a wedding.  I went to stay with my twin granddaughters for a few days so they could attend it.   This would also be the first time that my granddaughters would not be seeing their parents for more than 24 hours. However, before leaving, my daughter made sure that my grandchildren had all the snacks that they liked. So here we are enjoying an evening snack and out of the mouth of babe comes something that you just would not expect from a 5-year-old. So calmly, so appreciative, so caring, so loving, and Sooooo unexpected, one of them says, “My mommy bought me this”, talking about the Ice Cream Sandwich she was eating. And with the sweetest little smile on her face, she added, “We’re so lucky to have her”.  I looked at her.  I smiled and then agreed with her, “You sure are”, I said.  Wow, I thought.  She really said that, and she meant it from her whole heart.  What an honor to my daughter to have this said of her from her 5-year-old daughter. This reminds us that our children are watching and listening, have feelings and thoughts, and at any given time or moment, what they are feeling and what they are thinking might come out. The significance of her feelings for her mother, my daughter, and the fact that she was able to express it in that manner, was something more precious than anything I could imagine at that moment. 

Children really do say the darndest things and we are so lucky to have them!

(Illustration by Avionne Akanbi)

HER Story: Pimped Out And I’m Tired


These pimps are out there and they won’t leave me alone. I keep the hustle going but they still say they want more and more.  “Get out there and make my money” they say. “And don’t come back here without it. If you don’t give me every penny that I need, I’m going to go up on it and  you’re going to owe me more.”

But Misters, I’ll call them that, I don’t have anymore. I’m tired. Can I get off the street for a while? But they say “No. You get out there and make my money. Next time I tell you to make my money you better bring it to me on time.

But Mister, I got to get my car so I can get over there to the workplace.

“I don’t care about that car. If you want a roof over your head you better get me my money.”

But my lights, Mister, if I don’t have enough I won’t have lights.

“You don’t need lights for what you have to do. Just get on that hustle and get my money.”

But Mister, it’s cold and I need some gas around here.

“You don’t need any gas. Just snuggle up and get some more blankets. You’ll be fine. Just get me my money. We all need our money. Don’t I take care of you when you give me my money? So get me my money.”

They all say that they take care of me. But if I don’t get them their money they drop me. I don’t have any help. I go to one for help and tell them that I don’t have it. But they don’t care. Each one wants their money. They will take a big cut of whatever I get. So I ask, Mister, what if I can’t get all of it?  

“That’s not my problem. You just get me my money.”

So here I am hustling every time I get a chance. My legs are always out there trying to make that Hustle. My legs are tired. And I say to them, I’m getting older. Don’t I get a break?

“A break? As long as you can walk you don’t get a break. You bring me my money. And I need it by 5 today.”

So all weekend long, I was on my hustle. Oh, but they’re still not satisfied. The Pimps keep riding my back day and night. I got a phone call from one of them.

“Where are you? Where is my money?”

I said let me out. I’m going to stop. But they know about each other and they all tell me that they own me. I’ll never get out. I called myself taking a couple of days off and I got a phone call from another one of those pimps. 

He asked, “where the H… have you been? I have been waiting on my money.”

I explained that I had to get off my feet for a minute and that the hustle was killing me. He said, “I don’t care. I want my money by this afternoon or I will……… I was so stressed out, I didn’t hear the rest of it. But I knew I’d better get back on that hustle that very night and I did.

The Pimps are strong and unbending. They take over every facet of my life to the fact that I rarely enjoy it. Oh well, looks like The Pimps are still winning. I see I have to accept the fact that the pimps are in control.

The first of the month the rental company wants their money. Next is the power company, then gas company, the car insurance, the car payments and the list goes on and on. Pimps to the right, pimps to the left, pimps all around. And I’m stuck in the middle!! The Pimps are winning!!!! And the hustle goes on. I am PIMPED Out and I’m Tired! HELP!  HELP!! HELP!!!

You Pray and try to be positive, but it feels like it does not seem to always work. Sometimes you just want to go to an isolated place and scream, just to get those feelings out. After that, you can hopefully think about your next step.

Any body ever feel this way?  Believe me the number is astounding! 

Working to pay bills and having nothing left to enjoy life or time with your family, A thought that enters many mines.

What can she do? What can we do?  

My only thought right now is to help each other whenever we can and sometimes when we think we can’t? 

Thanks for reading and listening Chit-Chatters.  Your thoughts are welcomed.

How Do You Know?

Chit Chat TodayEver wonder if he really likes you or if he is just stringing you along? Teenagers, young adults, middle-aged, or seniors. We all have those thoughts. No matter how long you’ve been seeing someone, you still wonder if he really cares. How can you tell if a person will be good for you past today? He may tell you “I care for you…you’re the only one for me”. He smiles and you melt. Yeah… Right! But now, he leaves your side and you can’t reach him. Your calls go to his voicemail. If he answers, your conversation is cut short… “Wait a minute, somebody’s calling me…I’ll call you back in a few minutes.” A few minutes takes 15 minutes, 30 minutes, then no return call at all. Yet, he said “You’re the only one for me.” Valentine’s Day, you may get a text, you may get a call, you may not hear from him at all.  Yet…”You’re the only one for me.”  Your birthday… Nothing, maybe an acknowledgement, maybe not. You’re supposed to go out to dinner, but he forgets. Something came up. He gives you an excuse but then maybe not. How about “… I forgot…” You ask, “You forgot? Am I not important enough to remember? He says “…I had something to do” You say, then, “Explain the emergency. What was more important than our relationship and me and my birthday?”

Your heart is all into him, this relationship and you want to believe. But you just don’t know how to. He disappears, no answer for 2 to 3 days. The whole weekend, then more days. But the worst thing, something happens that really disturbs you. A crisis to you. Is he there to support you? Does he lend a shoulder to cry on? Does he listen to your concerns and your feelings? Is he there when you need him? Excuses, excuses, excuses, “…I lost my phone. My phone died. My charger is not working….” Well, here comes the hard part for you. Your nagging mind wants an answer. How can you tell if he really cares for you? How do you know if he’s really into you?  Let’s see if we can figure this out.

One day, a friend of mine said something that really got me to thinking.  You may have heard it before.  It’s not new.  But now, you need to internalize the words.  Apply it to yourself. How can you tell if someone is really into you?

You need to – TAKE YOUR EMOTIONS OUT OF IT!  I’ll say it again. Take your emotions out of it. Forget that you care for this person. Forget that you liked this person. Forget any words he may have said to you. Words are irrelevant at this point. Just look at him from the outside as if you’re someone else looking at this strange person. What do you see? What does he do? Look at him. Stand back now. Take a good look. Where is he when you need him? What is he doing? Remember, caring and loving are action words. How does he treat you? That’s how you know if he cares!

Feel free to Chit Chat your thoughts on this……